W.H.Y. Coaching

Hello! It’s been over a year since my last post, and there’s a very good reason for that. In January, 2024, I found out I was expecting again–with twins! Very long story short: It was a high-risk pregnancy, and I ended up being in-patient for about 3 weeks before delivering our baby girls at 28 weeks gestation. Then it was a very long four months in the NICU, two months of trying to figure out what the heck we were doing, and the last month of moving to a house! Whew!

Thankfully, everyone is doing well! A year ago, we weren’t even sure if we’d have both girls.

All of that to say, I’ve learned a lot over the past year about health. Here are just a few things I hope will be an encouragement to you:

1. It’s ok to not respond. Sometimes you just need to unplug from your phone and not respond to emails/texts/calls because you’re not in the right headspace. Even if it’s a good message, you are not obligated to respond immediately.
2. People care and genuinely want to help. I can’t express my gratitude for everyone who brought us meals, took care of Z, offered their time, and did the little things that meant a lot. I had to learn how to specifically ask for help, so I kept a list of people who had offered and asked them when I knew what I needed.
3. Time heals.* Big asterisk here, because it doesn’t heal all or cover up what we’ve experienced. But it does help. And while there’s still a lot to process about this last year, the longer it’s been, the better I’ve felt.
4. Expectations need to change in order to feel like you can accomplish things. Ok, so I thought I knew this one, but I’m still learning. Before having our first daughter, I tried to exercise with a program 30 minutes each day. Then we had our daughter, and I just wanted to walk five days a week for 30 minutes. And since last June, my goal is just to get outside and not sit all day! Most days, I can hit that goal, and it feels good.

All of these concepts can help us when we apply them to setting goals and achieving what’s attainable and realistic. We don’t need to constantly look for approval when it comes to social media or even the people we interact with. Put the phone down! On the flip side, tell your close friends and family what you want to do so you’re accountable to it. They want you to succeed!

Keep working. “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” And the life-changing and life-long goals aren’t going to be accomplished in a quick 21-day fix. But adjust those expectations along the way so you feel like you’re going somewhere.

Thanks for continuing to support W.H.Y. Coaching! While life looks a little different now, I am still accepting clients! Check out the website, or shoot me an email at findingyourwhytofindyourhow@gmail.com. I’d love to chat and see what you’re looking for!

Our sweet girls are 7 months old!